Save yourself: write now, tomorrow, or whenever

I thought this was too good not to share. “One needs to grieve almost to death before they can live again.” Yes, one does.

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Words that delivered

In her memoir, Lucky, Alice Sebold said, “No one can pull anyone back from anywhere. You save yourself or you remain unsaved.”

It is true.

You have to save yourself (no one can pull you back from this place). You have to trust yourself. You have to be the expert on you, and your grief.

In my case, after the sudden death of my son, I withdrew, cocooned from the world, and ignored those who told me to do otherwise. I was the expert on my grief. This was my way.

I let myself die. Almost die. One needs to grieve to almost death before they can live again. And then, after days of almost dying, of starvation, I took a bite of a sandwich. A sip of something hot. Then wrote down a memory. Then almost died again.

There was no…

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4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. tersiaburger
    Mar 17, 2014 @ 23:34:37

    Beautiful words. Thank you for sharing Denise.


  2. Denise
    Mar 18, 2014 @ 08:20:51

    You’re very welcome ;o)


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  4. gracielynne62013
    Mar 18, 2014 @ 12:21:20

    I read this yesterday and it touched my heart. So now my dear I have had my heart touched twice with empathy for your pain and that of the original writer. My love and compassion remains extended to you.
    Gracie Lynne


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